A miscellany of ideas, circumstance and a song brings me to this question: when a relationship ceases, where does the responsibility of “closure” lie?
It is a little like happiness, I think. No one can make you happy; it is something you choose to be. Indeed, closure is a choice one must make - to be happy, to be whole. And most importantly, it is the choice to be fair. If someone wants to be let go of, it is only fair to respect the decision.
...Only fair not to make them feel like scum of the universe for wanting another path.
...Only fair to love someone enough to want joy for them, even when it is not you.
...Only fair to know that pain is your business and yours alone.
...Only fair to accept pain as you did rapture.
Mind, these are not difficult things to do.
The conundrum is the one time when you can't practice what you preach from every available soapbox.
...The one time when you are torn between what is right and what you thirst for.
...The one time when you don't want to let go... when you can't let go?
What do you do then?
If holding onto the past is such a foolish endeavour... why do I cling so desperately?